It is a mystery why we fall in love.
It is a mystery how it happens.
It is a mystery when it comes.
It is a mystery why some love grows and why some love fails.
You can analyze this and look for reasons, but you will never do anymore than take life out of the experience. Just as life itself, love is more than the sum of interests, attractions, and commonalities that two people share. It is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.
Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life, the gift of love will come to you in full bloom. Take hold of it and celebrate it in all inexpressible beauty. This is the dream we all share. More often, it will come and take hold of you, make you celebrate for a brief moment, and then move on.
When this happens to young people, they too often try to grasp and take hold of the opportunity, not letting go, refusing to see that it is a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to keep it alive rather than accepting the gift for what it is, then moving on.
They want answers when there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong with them that makes the other person fall out of love, or they try to change their whole being hoping that it would do something good. Sometimes, they blame the circumstances, still in denial that it’s over. They try to give a deeper meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond love itself. And until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.
You need to treat what love brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn’t choose to rest in the other person’s heart. If you find someone in love with you but you don’t love him back, appreciate what has come to knock at your door. Just gently refuse the gift you cannot return, do not take advantage; do not cause the person pain. How you deal with love reflects your character, how you are. All hearts feel the same pains and joys even if our lives and ways are different. If you fall in love with the person who feels the same with you and then love chooses to leave, do not try to asses blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. Here’s when time enters the scene.
You don’t choose love, love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who has caused that fire to burn. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Share it to the world any way you can.
Some people miss the feeling of being loved and the feeling of loving someone. They appear to be desperately in need of love to fill their empty hearts. They go with anything just to lessen that feeling of being alone. The first blush of new love is overflowing but as it cools, people revert to seeing love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that love can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it or reason it into staying. You don’t need an overflowing. But if you choose to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and will always be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live even if it’s only for a moment in your life.
When this happens to young people, they too often try to grasp and take hold of the opportunity, not letting go, refusing to see that it is a gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to keep it alive rather than accepting the gift for what it is, then moving on.
They want answers when there are no answers. They want to know what is wrong with them that makes the other person fall out of love, or they try to change their whole being hoping that it would do something good. Sometimes, they blame the circumstances, still in denial that it’s over. They try to give a deeper meaning to what has happened. But there is no meaning beyond love itself. And until they accept its own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.
You need to treat what love brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn’t choose to rest in the other person’s heart. If you find someone in love with you but you don’t love him back, appreciate what has come to knock at your door. Just gently refuse the gift you cannot return, do not take advantage; do not cause the person pain. How you deal with love reflects your character, how you are. All hearts feel the same pains and joys even if our lives and ways are different. If you fall in love with the person who feels the same with you and then love chooses to leave, do not try to asses blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. Here’s when time enters the scene.
You don’t choose love, love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who has caused that fire to burn. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Share it to the world any way you can.
Some people miss the feeling of being loved and the feeling of loving someone. They appear to be desperately in need of love to fill their empty hearts. They go with anything just to lessen that feeling of being alone. The first blush of new love is overflowing but as it cools, people revert to seeing love as a need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that love can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Love has its time, its own season, its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it or reason it into staying. You don’t need an overflowing. But if you choose to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and will always be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live even if it’s only for a moment in your life.
If you keep your heart open, it will come again.
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