It's been a year and so since I was diagnosed with an illness. Normally, I don't feel comfortable whenever I talk about this. But I guess, the reason why i'm writing this now is the thought that eventually, everyone will know.
It was on the 28th day of January, year 2012, when the results came out. Yeah... My 20th birthday. Surprise! What a great way of celebrating and embracing the breakthrough of my teenage years. It was just so heartbreaking to hear everything straight from my doctor. And while all the information are thrown right into my face, one question was all I can think about... WHY ME?
So before anything else, let me tell you a brief background of what caused all this drama. SLE or Systemic Lupus Erythematosus hit me like a big yellow school bus. Okay... Maybe I'm being too exaggerated there, but that would be a good analogy to express what I felt the moment I knew.
Out of curiosity and frustration, I kinda made some research about it. Thanks to modern technology and Google, it became easier to absorb and understand everything. According to Medline Plus, SLE is a long-term autoimmune disorder that may affect the skin, joints, kidneys, brain, and other organs. The body's immune system mistakenly attacks healthy tissue, which leads to long-term inflammation. But until today, the underlying cause of autoimmune diseases is not fully known. SLE is much more common in women than men. It may occur at any age, but appears most often in people between the ages of 10 and 50.
Symptoms vary from person to person, and may come and go. Almost everyone with SLE has joint pain and swelling. Some develop arthritis. Frequently affected joints are the fingers, hands, wrists, and knees. Other common symptoms include: chest pain when taking a deep breath, fatigue, fever with no other cause, general discomfort, uneasiness or malaise, hair loss, mouth sores, swollen lymph nodes, sensitivity to sunlight, and skin rash -- a "butterfly" rash over the cheeks and bridge of the nose affects about half of people with SLE. The rash gets worse in sunlight. The rash may also be widespread.
A butterfly rash looks something like this.
(Photo taken from the Internet)
Skin rash appears commonly in the hands. They sometimes itch, but they hurt like sunburn.
(Photo taken from the Internet)
Skin rash appears commonly in the hands. They sometimes itch, but they hurt like sunburn.
(Photo taken from the Internet)
There are also times that my eyes gets red for no reason. They're known as eye rash.
(Photo taken from the Internet)
What hurts the most is that there is no cure for SLE. And like cancer, it's a chronic illness. You get by with it. You grow old with it. The only way to get through it is to accept the fact that eventually, you'll have to leave this happy, awful but wonderful, and unfair place called earth. And to tell the truth, my biggest fear is... death.
I have experienced being bedridden for one whole week, completely depending on the support of the people taking care of me, my parents and my older brother. I was a useless, paralyzed body dumped in a bed of hopelessness and frailty. A good for nothing. I can't move any part of my body for every flinch I make would be equivalent to a thousand syringe shots. Going to the bathroom was even worse. It's like taking a walk into hell. Every step of the way was more painful than the last one
To reduce the pain, my doctor gave me medicines. Tons of them. The goal of treatment is to control symptoms. As of now, i think i'm having 7 kinds of drugs, all to be taken on a specific time daily. Imagine how high I can be. Hahaha. =)) Kidding. But I don't get overdosed with these stuff. I just get side effects like a swollen face, which i hate the most because my face gets all round and chubby, and a difficulty in getting enough sleep. Insomnia. I get that all the time.
What's good about these meds is that they do change, depending on the results of my laboratory tests. Whenever I have my check-up, which happens every three months, my doctor would study my results and decide whether to increase or decrease drug dosages and/or add or lessen the amount of intakes. She would always ask how am I doing or if I'm still attending school. Because according to her, people with SLE must avoid stress and tiredness. They are big NO-NOs. I must get complete rest and sleep whenever possible, or else my illness would trigger.
Sometimes, it's really hard to follow some of the rules that complicates my illness. One of these is the fact that I still go to school. There was a time when my parents asked me if I would still continue my studies despite the fact that there will be limits and changes that I have to consider. Without hesitation, I answered them with a YES. Of course, I would want to finish school. I want to have a degree. I want to pursue my chosen career. I want to earn and save and spend and share the fruits of my labor. It's the only thing I can hold on to and give back to my parents in exchange for the sacrifices they did for me. I want them to be happy.
As of now, my illness is at ease. The symptoms are physically absent. But from time to time, there would be hints of small red spots, rashes on my face and sudden joint pains. But they're all bearable. All is good. All I need is some rest and a pain reliever to make sure everything will be okay.
For some people, this illness of mine is no longer new to them. I have told some of my relatives and close friends about it. They were pretty sad, but very supportive and encouraging in some way. My friends would sometimes make fun of me saying I'm a modern-day vampire. Haha. =)) But it doesn't get into me. I'm even happier because they still accept me despite my condition. There was also a time when I forgot my umbrella and it was such a hot, sunny day. (FYI: One thing that I should always have with me is my umbrella. As much as possible, I should not expose myself to sunlight or else... I might transform into a bat. Hahaha. =)) Joking.) What my friends did is that they opened all their umbrellas for me. And I was like an instant princess along with my minions covering for me. I truly love my friends. They are for keeps. :)
That one question I asked myself before, (Let me refresh you... WHY ME?) it longer crosses my mind. Because now, I definitely know the answer. Instead of interpreting it as a curse, I might as well accept it as blessing. God has chosen me to be in this position. I don't know exactly why, but I'm sure He has an OH-SO-GREAT plan for me. :) Sometimes I would say to myself, maybe the reason why He gave me this is because He knows I'm strong enough to take it and there would be no other person perfect for it. I am so glad that He made me realize how beautiful life is no matter how many problems, changes and challenges gets thrown at you. He gave me more reasons to smile, more things to be thankful for, a family to keep, more friends to treasure and a bestfriend to stay with me until the end. :)
There will always be a reason to smile. :)
(Photo taken on May 7, 2013)
I have always loved this quote from the book "The Fault In Our Stars" by John Green. :)
Almost everyone is obsessed with leaving a mark upon the world. Bequeathing a legacy. Outlasting death. We all want to be remembered. I do, too. That‘s what bothers me most, is being another unremembered casualty in the ancient and inglorious war against disease. I want to leave a mark.
And whenever I stumble upon these thoughts, I would just listen to this song.
Listen here. :)
Listen here. :)
If the mind keeps thinking you've had enough.
But the heart keeps telling you "don’t give up".
Who are we to be questioning, wondering what is what?
Don’t give up, through it all, just stand up.
And this is how I intend to live starting today. :) <3